What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

I thought some of the negative reviews were a bit critical of this book. This book lays a solid foundation to reading non verbal actions or "tells". I've read several other books on this subject and thought this was a solid read and I was very happy with my purchase. There is no single book offered that will turn you into an expert over night.It is important to realize that reading people is a skill. You don't become great at it over night or an expert right after reading the book. Just like any other skill, you have to practice and work at it. You develop the skill of paying attention and picking up on the little things. Once you are able to do that, you then have to determine what all of those things mean. I'm a single male, small business owner and avid poker player. Being able to read people can be very useful in dating, business and at the poker table.One thing that is very interesting is that some actions or "tells" are very common and seem to always mean the same thing. Other actions or "tells" are unique to each person. What may mean one thing for one person, may actually mean the opposite when done by another person. The "magic" of being able to read people is being able to determine what those actions mean for individual people. Sometimes it's not an action at all but it is what people DON'T say or do that can paint you the entire picture.In my business, I use my ability to read people to determine whether or not they are being truthful or are uncomfortable with something. If I see them acting in a certain way that makes me believe they are uncomfortable, I go out of my way to explain things to them so that they might be more comfortable with the situation or outcome. In my personal life, I can determine whether or not my friends or family are having a good or bad day and/or might want or need something. This book should be a dating book as well. I can't stand dating. Not many people are very up front and honest about how they feel about another person, especially on a first date. I am not kidding you when I say that there are more non-verbal "tells" on a first date than in any other situation! If you want to know if a woman likes you or not, pay attention to her actions throughout the date. I'm not an expert, but I think I can figure it out in 10 minutes or less! (Good or bad!....ok, mostly bad, lol)I enjoy playing poker. I play in home games and I play $1/$2 No Limit Hold Em in the casino poker rooms. This book really is a big help with poker tells. It's helped me make some extraordinary calls and folds. Several times I've stunned the entire table and the dealers with my reads. Just a few things off of the top of my head are, people who've made very strong hands will often tilt their heads while betting or thinking of betting, hold their hands together-touching only at the finger tips, bounce one leg like crazy (happy feet), slide their chips into the pot very slowly or gently or give off a genuine smile. People who have hit the flop also tend to look away right away if they notice they've hit their card(s). Normally people who hit the flop do not stare at the flop. People who are on drawing hands tend to call bets very quickly, seeming to give it no thought what-so-ever. People who have a poor hand or are on a bluff often force a smile (there is a difference if you pay attention!), or purse their lips together, have an increased blink rate, forcefully bet chips into the pot or speak very loudly as they announce "RAISE" or "ALL IN". They are trying to scare you or force you out of the pot. After reading this book, my poker reads went through the roof. I think it is because I was paying attention and putting more effort into it. I noticed another player at my home game would sometimes slide his chips into the pot without saying a word when he was all in. He keeps his chips in a big messy pile throughout the game. But sometimes he would actually take the time to count his chips and stack them neatly into the pot when he moved all in. He takes his time counting his chips and then announces the value amount to the table. When he counts them, he is bluffing. He wants his stack to be known in hopes of scaring off the other opponents. I call him with very weak holdings when he does this and I fold when he slides his chips into the pot without counting them or saying a word. He has no idea he is doing this and I'm not about to say a word! This tell is 100%. I actually saw another player do this in the casino and I made an extraordinary call to win the pot.This book is full of good information to use in many situations. It teaches you the basics (and then some), but it is up to you to figure out how to put theory into practice and actually stay focused.

I have been in law enforcement for close to 30 years on a large agency- I am always on the lookout for useful tools of the trade that I can use and pass along to my investigators. This book is great! It is packed with useful information. No, I am not a shill for this book and do not know the author- although I have met many professional law enforcement investigators who have written good books and manuals. I am impressed with the insights and natural techniques contained in this book. I am ordering a copy for all the investigators in my unit, I am that impressed with this book. Sure, there is always something about any book that does not satisfy a reader- but I honestly must say there is little about this book that I didn't like.UPDATE 6/2016: It's been over 7 years since I wrote this review. Time flies... I still regard this is a "great book" and highly recommend. I since have retired from my command position with the department I worked for (retired 3/14), where I was in charge (Captain) of the investigative units that handled homicides, sexual assaults, child abuse, domestic violence, internet crimes against children, juvenile division, elder abuse, financial crimes. Feel free to look at the size of the agency- [...]My rank was Captain, and the entire investigative division was the Central Investigations Division. Over my nearly 4 decades in law enforcement (since retirement I have joined another agency as an investigator), I have raked in hundreds of training hours attending countless classes, seminars, conferences dealing with advanced investigative techniques- including interviewing and interrogation, reading body language, etc. Additionally, I still teach in-service and college level criminal justice courses to investigators and those majoring in criminal justice. I am presently an adjunct college instructor in criminal justice.I believe I can rate this book with some "authority" as to its subject matter, and my rating of it as a 5 star book still stands, and still being great, is based on my experience(s). I have in fact purchased copies of this book for those who have worked for me.I still highly recommend this book.A few "commentators" over the years have attacked my initial review and tried to discredit it by questioning the veracity of my claim to being in law enforcement in a command position over an investigative unit. They based their opinion seemingly on the basis of their "CSI TV influenced deductions" that because of the venacular I used in my review, I "obviously", by one commentator's deduction, was not from any known (at least to that persons vast experience) law enforcement genre. Nor would any law enforcement command-type person, again in their opinion or vast LE "experience", ever purchase anything for their subordinates. All I can say to them is wow..."get a life" and please move on (and I hope you never get jury duty for anything truly important).To those 600+ people who found my intital review helpful, thank you for apparently believing I am who I professed to be in my initial review, which was the basis for that review. The author of this book, and this book, is deserving!

This a body language 101 book.